Ladies, I hate to be the one to break it to you, but you simply do not get it! You don't understand us, not one bit. Whew....finally I can get that off my chest!
Every woman has been ranting about Steve Harvey's new book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.  I mean everywhere I turn I see that cover and a nose stuck in that book: at the gym, at the bookstore, at the library....the list goes on and on. But my question is, are you really understanding and applying what you've read? I think not.
I have always tried to understand the female psyche, but that is a never ending process and I think I am going to throw in the towel. But when it comes to understanding us men, like Harvey writes: "...men are simple." I don't think he wrote that just because it sounds good. It is really true.
So, why do you keep trying to make us as complex as you are? Why do you automatically assume we will think the way that you do? First of all, to be honest, we really don't think no where near as much as you do. If we did, our brains would explode and we'd be an endangered species.
What I am trying to say is do yourself a favor and do not expect for us to naturally be the man you want us to be. Yes, maybe every once and a while, a man may come along who will sweep you off your feet...and those men do exist. But don't get all worked up and upset if your Prince Charming makes a mistake and forgets to say "I love you," after a casual phone conversation, or falls asleep when you were supposed to kick it together that night....that does not make him a toad. He is just a man and sometimes we forget.
But the thing that gets under my skin is the fact that no matter how hard you try or how many books you try to read to understand us, you repress all feelings to accept what you read and know is true. We are not you! We are not your girlfriends and we are not your mother or aunties! We simply don't think the same and that is where the problem comes in. When you can accept your experiences with men will go so much smoother.
I have seen it firsthand: a woman tried to change me into this man that she has in her head. Don't get me wrong, I was raised right...by a strong woman who told me to always respect my female counterpart. But that does not mean that I am the man who you see, who is going to remember to open the car door for you every time. Or I might lay around so comfortable that I want to sit around in my boxers all day, or ride around in my car listening to rap instead of slow jams...I can continue, but I'm sure you can think of a thousand more things.
My point is ladies, let us be who we are and let us change ourselves. It is not your job to change us. Because guess what, even if we do it your way all the time, while you are thinking "Oh girl, I got him now," we are eventually going to resent you for it. And we will in turn split from you or finf someone else who appreciates the man we are and not some fantasy man - made up in their head.

3 Comments

Tiffany Brown , on 7/20/2009 12:11:17 AM Said: Wow, I guess I should go pick up a copy of Steve's book then. I actually didn't want to read it because I didn't like the fact that all my sisters were worshiping this book like it was God's gift to women. So, maybe I'll pick it up. I just didn't like the thought of a man trying to tell me how to do me. Maybe, I had the wrong idea and I don't have a problem admitting that I'm wrong. But if it's on a tip like, Ok here's somethings you need to consider when dealing with men then cool. But I can't stand it when my girls are like quoting this book or if they meet someone new they're like ok lets see what this means....girl go get THE BOOK... Because all men are not created equal but I might be wrong...I'll comment again after I've checked the book out...

Monique Wright, on 7/21/2009 10:17:05 AM Said: Okay, so Tiffany Brown, I am in the same boat like you. I told myself I am not getting this book, no way, no how. But it really is true. Like the first chapter is a replica of many of the guys I have dated. Seriously. Steve Harvey is like that uncle - or - cool dad that's just gonna tell it like it is, no beating around the bush like most books do. And it's hilarious too! Get it :)

Tiffany Brown , on 7/28/2009 12:20:00 AM Said: So I got the book and I've finished it. And my conclusion is that Uncle Steve as Monique may call him knows his stuff....I read the first chapter and realized why me and my highschool sweet heart aren't together now....Just like that......lol...So sad but so true. Anyway, I'll have to admit that I did learn somethings that I didn't know.... However, I think we do have to understand that it's coming from the prospective of a man who's mother probably instilled the right stuff in him...I'm a 20 something and I've dated 30 somethings who are the pits....Oh well, I may refer back to "the book" every now and then cause I don't want to be strong independent and lonely as hell.....THANKS UNCLE STEVE FOR BRINGING BACK THE 90-DAY RULE! LOL I thought negros had forgot about that...

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