College Guys 101
By Malaya Johnson, SHINE Contributor

School is back in session and it's time for a new "Girls Rock" lesson! Get ready, put your seat belt on because you're in for a ride down College Boys Lane...
Picture the first couple of weeks in class you notice a cute guy that enters and sits next to you. You guys chat and share a few laughs at your boring professor during every class meeting. Numbers are exchanged and to add to the list, study dates, and maybe a few kisses here and there. Then one day you walk into the library to see the same flirtatious laughs and rubs between your "study buddy" and another girl, and he doesn't even say hello. Your feelings are left confused and the song "You're a Jerk" gets added to your playlist. Well take it easy, because your girl is here to show you how to cope if this should ever happen to you.
I mean lets keep it real, besides the percentage of college students who find their true love during these years, the rest of us are left to fend for ourselves.
Women outnumber men on every campus, leaving college guys overwhelmed with the large variety of women on the campus scene, that commitment is a foreign language in their mind. But come on girl, can you blame them? College is not the time for either sexes to search for something serious. With the stress of class, possibly work, and keeping that small figure with dedication to the gym, its no need to add boy trouble to the list.
Don't believe me?... Then let me sway you with a few pointers:
 
College is a guy's paradise.
College guys are so overwhelmed with the amount of girls on campus that there is absolutely no reason to be tide down to one. Don't take their flirtatious charisma with every girl they meet to heart. Respect the time in both sexes lives and use these years to explore and conquer.
 
Save yourself the drama honey!
Just about every girl can name a guy from high school that they thought they would be with forever. The time comes to decide a college to attend and you try the long distance thing. Turns out, it's a joke. Let's be honest, long distance relationships take a lot of work. So why not save the long nights on the phone arguing and give yourself the deserved chance to "test the waters." You don't have to say goodbye forever, but I'm a believer in destiny and if it's meant to be, it will be. Don't limit your experiences.
 
What's acceptable then may not be acceptable now.
College is a time to find out what you want out of a relationship. Characteristics of a guy that would have intrigued you your freshman and sophomore year may not suite you when you get to that junior and senior status. As you experience relationships in college, you're able to eliminate and upgrade your expectations of a guy. This time also lets you tweek a few flaws in your own role in relationships so that your also expected highly of.
 
It takes some guys a little longer to "test the waters."
Don't expect guys to have fully matured in the relationship section...and know that they may not feel they have experienced enough during their first couple semesters, to dedicate their time to just one girl. Just respect the time needed until they finally "work it out". One day they just may get the picture.
 
Don't worry, it's football season!
Some of the biggest college parties take place during football season. Football, fraternity/sorority parties, and college girls are a guy's season ticket to a wonderful life. So why not join in the football spirit and have FUN. Enjoy the parties just as much as they do and get to know people, instead of consuming yourself with thoughts of longevity in a relationship.
 
College guys are broke and you are too.
Yes, we women love to be treated like princesses, but most college guys just don't have the funds to give us all that our little hearts desire. The fellas definitely aren't looking for someone to take care of with a work study job, so don't always expect the traditional dating style of dinner and a movie. Love that tall size of your favorite Starbucks coffee he purchased you last week. And even better, take the approach of splitting the bill sometimes. This can make both parties feel an even investment in the potential relationship.
 
Simply put college is FUN!! But it's all what you make of it. Don't let these very "friendly" college guys get the best of you. They are here for the experience just as you are. So respect the time and most importantly play it safe. Your milk may not be the only glass of milk he's dipping his cookie in. : ) Until it all makes sense, keep rocking with SHINE!

2 Comments

Brit, on 10/7/2009 10:43:04 PM Said: I say maintain the three guy rule at all times: always have at least three "gentlemen" in your radar at all times. Men need to compete for your affection, and they might as well start now--the odds will NOT (and I repeat, will NOT) start to change in your favor once you graduate. I agree with the writer to make the most of the college experience in every facet of university living, but let's not lose our sense of worth ladies!

Malaya J, on 10/7/2009 11:14:35 PM Said: Thanks for reading! Keep rocking with SHINE!

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